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March 31, 2008 at 1:25 pm

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The black party and the grey lady…

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Sunday began as I arrived at the Black Black Party with the hot and graciousbostontim. Around six hours later I left, made my way home and crashed for a while.

When I woke I went and got today’s New York Times because it contains this. An interesting article about art and race.

And then, browsing through the rest of the paper I found this. Both Marla Leigh Caplan and Brina Thurston, two of the women mentioned in the article are graduates of my ICP program. It’s great to see them featured.

The rest of today has been recuperating from the party and some quality time spent with thornyc. Now I’m reading genre novels and trying to draft some more question month responses.

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March 30, 2008 at 9:34 pm

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At the Armory Art Fair…

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March 29, 2008 at 8:24 pm

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March 28, 2008 at 11:49 pm

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A rough day…

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Even with some good news coming in. Trying to take a lesson from the sprouting plants i saw on Fifth Avenue.

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March 27, 2008 at 11:42 pm

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March 26, 2008 at 4:04 pm

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Second answer of the day…

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“If someone offered to purchase a first class round trip airline ticket for you to anywhere, where would you go?” asks the talented angeltatts.

I know that I said that travel to Senegal was one of the items on my “bucket list”, but when I thought about answering this, the first thing that popped into my head was Tokyo. It’s a close second to Africa on the list of places I deeply want to experience, and some how the prospect of flying there and back First Class is one that just seems too delicious. Everyone I know who has gone has told me that they thought I’d really like it.

Also if someone was paying for my ticket, I’d ave that much more money for all of the shopping I’d be dying to do, and all the ramen I’d be planning on eating.

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March 26, 2008 at 3:03 pm

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Still question month, yo…

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From itsolivia “I have finally been thinking about grad school. How does one start feeling confident before applying? Is confidence the key sign to finally get off my butt and applying? Help me, Mr. Blake.”

The way to feel confident about applying is the same way to feel confident about doing anything: lather, rinse, repeat. Don’t just apply to one place – and don’t freak out at the prospect of not getting your first choice the first time out. If you’re dead set on one place, be willing to contemplate re-applying if it doesn’t work out right away. Many of the students I talk to look at waiting a year like it’s the end of the world, when in fact they could put that time to good use marshalling their financial resources and preparing themselves for what is a serious commitment. On the other hand, I would also say be willing to be surprised by a program that you may not have thought about right away: they may have better access to what you really need than the first place that comes to mind.

Confidence isn’t the key sign – and you shouldn’t wait for it in order to apply: it’s like waiting to be “inspired” to work. You get more work done by making work into a regular part of your day – so researching schools, making plans and writing essays should become a regular part of your day, and then when the deadlines come, it’s not a nail biter. Don’t worry about what the place is “looking for” either. Just try to give an accurate picture of who you are and what you’re like. Finally, have fun with it. I think it’s groovy that you’re thinking about it.

It’s still March!
You can still ask!

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March 26, 2008 at 1:08 pm

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March 26, 2008 at 11:10 am

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From dawne_vs_luna comes this question: “How has life been for you now that you have stopped therapy? Do you find yourself missing it at all?

Life has been for the most part, very good. I stopped therapy after going for ten years, and my therapist and I wound down together, so it wasn’t an abrupt act at all. One of the parts of deciding to stop was me noting those places where I had been using therapy as a way of not taking action in my life, or where I had been using the weekly attention of my therapist as a substitute for various types of attention that I needed. So one of the things that I decided to do was to put the time and money I had devoted to therapy to use on various projects I wanted to move forward. I joined a gym. I started using my session time as a time to cook for myself. I tried to become more regular in my working habits. Making those changes had a huge effect on my daily life and indeed on my feelings of happiness and well being.

Do I miss it? I certainly miss seeing my therapist. He is an amazing guy with fantastic insights. Just this week I also realized that when I stopped seeing him I was left for the first time in eighteen years without a regular de facto witness: someone who week in and week out saw me saw what I was up to and had a reaction. It made me realize that I need to make sure that I work at that more: that I need to make sure that if I want to have contact with friends that I need to initiate that contact, and if I want to have a conversation about my work, I need to initiate that conversation.

I think the process of doing therapy was useful for me, and an important part of my path. I don’t think that it’s necessary for every one. The big difference I notice now is that I can identify my old behavioral patterns and emotional reactions and see them for what they are: reflexes built up over my years of development to help me survive. I can then chose whether or not they are applicable to what ever situation I find myself in now, and if not try to find a new response. That feels pretty darn good.

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March 25, 2008 at 5:47 pm

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