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I spent most of today at Kink For All, a kind of cross between a conference and speed dating for the alternative sexualities communities. I initially thought I wasn’t going to go at all, as I was getting things done around the house. Then I decided I would drop in for an hour. Once there, I stayed until it ended: five hours. I did a presentation, saw friends and soaked up the great good will that permeated the event.

I went in skeptical given the looseness of the organizational structure. But it all worked, in part because everyone who came committed to doing something to make the event a success. It was a low pressure volunteerism, that might not work for achieving other sorts of goals, but was perfect for something of this scope.

Presentations were twenty minutes apiece, which allowed people who didn’t have full topics to step forward and start discussions, and encouraged the more seasoned people to keep it crisp. I heard a lot of interesting discussion, and that’s what kept me around. It was exciting to learn how many people are thinking deeply about issues of gender and kink.

If New York is going to move beyond its current sexual doldrums, it will be because of many different people working on many different fronts. Today felt like a good step towards that.


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March 8, 2009 at 10:36 pm

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  1. I’m so thrilled you had a great time, especially considering your initial skepticism.

    I agree with you wholeheartedly that there are certain tasks for which this kind of “low-pressure volunteerism” doesn’t necessarily work for, and I also am very much of a believer of the phrase, “It takes all kinds.” I think our sexuality-based communities have a distinct need for this kind of low-pressure and autonomous environment, and a shift away from more rigid organizational structures for such unconference activities like this ad-hoc is a step in the right direction.

    At the same time, I hope that by creating such “low-pressure” spaces like this one, we’ll actually be able to revitalize a lot of the more formal organizations that currently exist, many of which are badly in need of additional manpower, such as the Leather Archives and Museum that Clarisse Thorn talked about, as well as NCSF, and even many community organizations.

    As I keep saying, it really does take all kinds. šŸ™‚


    March 10, 2009 at 2:35 pm

  2. maymay –

    Great to meet you at the event, and many thanks for spearheading it.

    I agree with you: I think the best outcome for a community would be a healthy ecology of organizations, all with different kinds of structures and life spans, which would allow for many different people to participate. A rising excitement floats all boats, as it were. I do believe that in that situation many organizations would be re-energized, because they would be free to focus on the things they do best. Many of the divisions I see out there are because people start to regard resources as limited and hence feel that they need to fight for them, to formulate their position purely from opposition. When we look closely, it’s an abundant universe.

    Here’s to many more felicitous meetings in the future.


    March 10, 2009 at 5:07 pm

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