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Pop Culture knows what I want….

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These days, there are two billboard images that give me that special warm feeling down below to the point that I’ve bean developing a couple of crushlets.

Firstly, I’m not much into medical play, but I’ve been hypnotized by the above picture of sneering butch medi-dommme Edie Falco in her new series. Since I don’t have Showtime, I’ll have to just content myself with sighing every time I pass the shot from the campaign, like I did yesterday when a double decker bus passed by with Edie’s steely blondness shrinkwrapped around it, two stories tall.

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Secondly, I’m spending time on the subway wishing I was the guy who gave Zach Galifianakis that sexy shiner and then stole his pants. Just so I could be the one he came staggering up to to make it all better. I’ll admit to indulging in dirty thoughts about him since I saw him as The Snuggler on Tim and Eric Awesome Show. He just looks so pretty hurt.

Luckily I have a guest this weekend, so all this excess energy has somewhere to go!

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May 29, 2009 at 2:47 pm

Are you trying to tell me something?

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Maybe it’s just me, and years of living on the sexual margins have made me all to ready to see hints and innuendo every where I look, but even from my warped perspective, I have to ask what exact message is this woman trying to send with her canvas tote with the shackles and noose on the side?

She was coolly reading the New Yorker from when she got on at Seventh Avenue til when she got off at 34th Street, in an outfit that had no other hints of kinkiness. Is the image an invitation to bondage or an expression of freedom from it? Some random importation of violent motifs onto the side of canvas totes as part of a fashion statement? I’ll never know.

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March 31, 2009 at 12:46 pm

Raisins and Dog Biscuits…

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…are what I need to buy today on the way home. But really this post is about IMsL.

This was the first Leather Contest I’ve attended, and only the second title contest (in the late 90’s I was part of helping the Metro Bears put on a run/contest that had very little impact). On the whole I have stayed away from organized leather, but if there was going to be a first one, I’m happy that it was this one. The stakes, while high for the contestants, seemed low for the rest of the event. People were there for a whole array for reasons, only one of which were the contests.

It was very interesting to be at a women’s event; my Seventies feminist training kicked in and it combined with my shyness to make me quite reticent about approaching people. I was trying to mind my ps and qs, not wanting to be intrusive and to listen twice befreo speaking once. I wasn’t always successful, but on the whole it was more relaxing than it sounds.

My class fell victim to the vagaries of San Francisco’s climate. Since what I was teaching involved smoking, it had to place outdoors, on the patio outside of the hospitality suite. This was fine when the sun was shining directly on it, but once there was no sunshine, the classroom turned chill to such an extent that people were stepping inside to watch from beyond the glass patio doors. I had to cut things a little short, both on the demonstration end and in general, because it was just getting silly. Scheduling also meant that many folks could only attend part of the class, which meant that there was a constant trickle of people in and out of the session. That tends to rattle me, and I feel like I didn’t do as good a job as I might have. I did have a stalwart demo bottom, and good friends in the audience, two factors that made the whole thing much easier.

There were many great people there to connect with, and despite the above mentioned shyness, I did have some wonderful conversations and saw some hot action. My own experience was mixed. I had one encounter go wrong on me and was really rattled by it. Luckily my friends were there to help me process it all.

Maybe its because I was fairly close to the operating staff, but the event seemed exceptionally well run to me; things happened when they were supposed to with a minimum of fuss. When that happens, it means that everyone can relax and enjoy what’s happening. Problems don’t become crises.

On the whole I feel like the women’s community is a lot more vibrant and diverse than the men’s. And it’s really interesting to me the way that a younger generation is upending questions about gender style and play. There’s a kind of giddiness in the exploration and reconfiguration of rules that speaks to my heart (and other parts, since I find that kind of energy very hot).

I don’t think I’ll ever find a place in “Leather Tradition”, and I’m not really interested in doing so in any event. But I am glad to have been a small part of IMsL. And very grateful to folks who brought me there.

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March 24, 2009 at 5:08 pm

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Think kink…

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I spent most of today at Kink For All, a kind of cross between a conference and speed dating for the alternative sexualities communities. I initially thought I wasn’t going to go at all, as I was getting things done around the house. Then I decided I would drop in for an hour. Once there, I stayed until it ended: five hours. I did a presentation, saw friends and soaked up the great good will that permeated the event.

I went in skeptical given the looseness of the organizational structure. But it all worked, in part because everyone who came committed to doing something to make the event a success. It was a low pressure volunteerism, that might not work for achieving other sorts of goals, but was perfect for something of this scope.

Presentations were twenty minutes apiece, which allowed people who didn’t have full topics to step forward and start discussions, and encouraged the more seasoned people to keep it crisp. I heard a lot of interesting discussion, and that’s what kept me around. It was exciting to learn how many people are thinking deeply about issues of gender and kink.

If New York is going to move beyond its current sexual doldrums, it will be because of many different people working on many different fronts. Today felt like a good step towards that.

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March 8, 2009 at 10:36 pm

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Hooray for ingenuity….

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February 15, 2009 at 10:08 am

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I went to a GMSMA meeting last night, my first in at more than a year. I went in response to an email I had received with this header: GMSMA: Is there a future for GMSMA?.

The email detailed some of the troubles the organization is having, and the discussion at the event was equally frank. To the organization’s credit, they were willing to say aloud and in a public meeting things that other organizations would often try to divert attention from. The willingness to do that is a sign of some health. But it’s clear that GMSMA is at one of the turning points in an organizational life cycle. To be honest, their case is not all that unique. Most nonprofits have to face the same challenges at various points in their existence. It’s one of the things that makes me continue to work with non-profit groups. Arts groups and kink groups have a lot of similarities.

I was not there in any official TES capacity, but I did speak a bit about how TES has dealt with similar issues. It’s interesting, because from where GMSMA is sitting some of TES’s situation looks pretty good. Similarly, one person who is the leader of another leather group got up and said that if they had a fraction of the membership and the budget that GMSMA had, they would be overjoyed.

There were people who said that GMSMA should disband, the sooner the better, and people who thought that the issue is simply one of people working a little harder and the organization doing some advertising. People talked about how they felt about the organization, and tried to articulate its current role. Sitting there I found myself with a lot of questions, and the impulse to do some talking and writing about them.

Many of the people who read this are involved in community based non-profit organizations: Kink, Arts groups, Bear Clubs, etc. I’m wondering if you know of any books about theses kinds or organizations. We see a lot of management books for corporate culture where the index of success is easily defined: profit. What kinds of resources are there on the non-profit side? And furthermore, how would you define a “successful” non-profit? What does it look like? Many of us have little trouble talking about the faults of the organizations we are part of (or refuse to be part of), but if we find them lacking, then just what is it they lack?

(edit) It seems to me that New York’s sexual culture is in the midst of a huge shift right now, and I’m also curious to hear if other people perceive it in the same way. Am I just projecting my own preoccupations onto our time, or do things seem very different from even five years ago?

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January 15, 2009 at 6:45 pm

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